In order to communicate effectively, for example to solve a discussion or to treat with other people, one common strategies is to regulate your emotions and calm down.

Some useful techniques that I have found are:

• Increase self-awareness practising mindfulness

• Practice pause technique:

  • S- Stop. Remember to pause.
  • T- Take a few breaths. This gives time to notice the stimulus that trigger our emotions.
  • O- Observe your present state without judging it. What are you feeling or thinking in this moment?
  • P- Proceed with awareness.

• Reframing: Shift your thought from I’m under attack to This is a chance to clarify or grow.

• Practice self-compassion

• Use phrases that help to dialogue, for example:

  • Let’s take a moment to make sure we’re both on the same page
  • I understand your perspective, but let me clarify my approach
  • I’m notice that …, but let me clarify my approach.

Related Questions:

Related Topics:

• Communication

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