In the book Creiamo cultura insieme and also in other various sources is expressed the concept that we do not see reality as it is, but we interpret it. See also Brain.

There is a difference between the actual reality and our interpretation of the reality. It is often used the analogy of the map and the territory. The actual reality is the territory. Our interpretation of the reality is the map. The map may be more or less accurate but it is not the actual territory. It is only a representation of it.

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In the book Creiamo cultura insieme is suggested that sometimes it is important to suspend the judgement to verify if the actual reality is really how we have interpreted it. See also How we interpret reality.

Otherwise we may take wrong decisions due to the fact that our interpretation of reality is wrong or inaccurate.

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• How we interpret reality
• How to know when to suspend judgement

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• Creiamo cultura insieme | 2021 | Irene Facheris

In the book The Fifth Discipline discussing is intended as trying to impose our reasons on others without listening to their points of view. The goal in this case is to be right and “winning” the discussion.

In contrast, dialoguing is intended listening the others’ reasons and sharing our own, with the common goal of learning and getting closer to the truth.

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• The Fifth Discipline | 2019 | Peter Senge

In the book Creiamo cultura insieme is reported that people discuss and argue because they are convinced that if they are right it means that the other people are wrong and that this is not always true.

I agree with this consideration. Sometimes the right is not clearly identifiable, but there are nuances between two extreme positions and the right may be within one of these nuances.

But what does it mean to be right? Being right means being able to distinguish between what is true and what is false, what is good and what is bad, what is fair and what is unfair. However the distinction between what is good and what is bad depends on people’s points of view and their beliefs. Sometimes what is good for one person, it is bad for the another. Therefore, it depends on the perspective.

The following are suggestions some collected from various contents and some from my own thoughts to improve non-verbal communication:

• About the gaze, alternate between looking the other person in the eyes and not looking them in the eyes.
• If you speak to a large audience:
  • divide in different areas the people and alternate the gaze on these areas
  • define one or two people to have a feedback on how the communication is going basing on their facial expression.
• About gesturality, find the right level, not too much, not too little.

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