In the book Creiamo cultura insieme is reported that people discuss and argue because they are convinced that if they are right it means that the other people are wrong and that this is not always true.

I agree with this consideration. Sometimes the right is not clearly identifiable, but there are nuances between two extreme positions and the right may be within one of these nuances.

But what does it mean to be right? Being right means being able to distinguish between what is true and what is false, what is good and what is bad, what is fair and what is unfair. However the distinction between what is good and what is bad depends on people’s points of view and their beliefs. Sometimes what is good for one person, it is bad for the another. Therefore, it depends on the perspective.

It is therefore necessary to understand the points of view of others, understanding what are their assumptions and premises. We therefore need to switch from discussing to dialoguing.

However sometimes it is true that one person is clearly right and the other is clearly wrong. I think that also in this case it is necessary to avoid conflict and trying to dialogue. This because the conflict would lead the other person to become difensive, hindering the dialogue. And nobody likes to be told they are wrong because they would seem incompetent.

Related Questions:

Related Topics:

• Communication
• What is the difference between dialogue and discussion
• How to solve a discussion

References

• The Fifth Discipline | 2019 | Peter Senge